From an obese pre-diabetic stress-factory to being a happier person

How I got from being an obese, pre-diabetic stress-factory four years ago to being an aware, calmer and happier person this year.

  1. Do more things that make you happy and productive
  2. Do less things that make you sad, depressed and put your life in a drag 
  3. Prioritise your health, food and family over work, social and other trivialities. A daily physical activity should be a non negotiable in your life. 
  4. Spend more time with people who elevate your motivation. Spend less time with people who add little forward looking value in your life.
  5. Find mentors in your personal and professional life and build a lasting relationship with them. 
  6. Save more money by cutting down on your wants and focusing on your needs. 
  7. Start letting go of toxic people, relationships, unnecessary anger and anxiety from your life. Go to # 1 above.
  8. How people perceive you is very important in personal and work life. Anyone who lives with a “I don’t give a fuck” attitude is living a lie. 
  9. Everything can be accomplished by tweaking two variables: hard work and time invested. If you stay on the table long enough, the chips will come to you.
  10. Wise words from my late father: It's okay if you don't become successful. But do make sure that you don't ever become an asshole.

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